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02 September 2014

Courting: A thing of the past?

when searching for images associated with courting, all i found were old ass paintings with men kissing women's hands, men giving women flowers or men giving women fruit. you know i exploded with laughter when i saw the pictures, but it let me know that courting is seen as an antiquated notion in relationships.

now why would a black girl that doesn't date be talking about courting? there is a particular group that believes the concept that dating and courting are two separate things. i believe that they are actually two steps in relationship establishment. but most of us skip the courting and go right into the dating part. think about how you met and hooked up with your last significant other. was there any courting involved? i can say none what so ever, hell there wasn't even any real dating. so when i get a glimpse into what courting is really about, i feel like i missed out on something.

i wanted to make sure that i knew what courting was, since i have been accusing every man i have dated of not comprehending what it entails. according to the interwebs, courting "is the period in a couple's relationship which precedes their engagement and marriage, or establishment of an agreed relationship of a more enduring kind." when i read this, i had better understanding of why dudes don't court so much. THAT SHIT SOUNDS SERIOUS!!! and most people are not trying to get married or even seriously date everybody that may peak their interest.  but that doesn't mean that people shouldn't get to know folks prior to doing whatever it is they do.

in my opinion, that is the biggest part of dating that is missing. people don't know the people that they are dating. let me ask you a question about the person that you are currently coupled with: what is your bae/boo/other half's greatest fear? i'll wait. i hope that more of you can answer that question than not. i decided my next time at the rodeo, i want to get to know my bucking bronco well before i sign up for the ride. so i need to learn this whole courting process, so i can make my intentions known in the beginning.

i started this blog entry with the idea of discussing courting, but i realized that i don't know enough about it to argue a point. so maybe this blog is a declaration of sorts for me. it allows me to put it out that there: i would prefer to be courted. if you don't know how, it doesn't seem hard to learn. i will even learn about it myself, to make sure it is done correctly. *winks* 

**this blog is for potential suitors. when you shot your shoot, have steady hands, aim correctly and make sure your legs are good.

1 comment:

Don said...

Love this post.

"in my opinion, that is the biggest part of dating that is missing"

Real shit.

I court. I enjoy courting a woman. Like yourself, I believe it to be de facto within the area of romance. I hadn't always believed as much, though. One day the truth just came to me I guess. Either that, or this one woman in particular who really made me work for the pussy back in the early 2000s brought me to my senses.

Courting is good for the soul, IMO. In fact, I'm immediately skeptical of any woman who removes her panties without expecting as much.

Also, I read your age is more than a number post. I agree, it is. I'm older than the woman I'm involved...and although there are times where I'm immature and she's mature...for the most part we both one day decided to really understand where we are in life as far as age and experience goes. Cause eventually it has to/will become a factor in the relationship.

In the end, I believe that